Lovers Online – Be Aware
Wisdom to all those lovers online: If it begins here…it just might end here. Being in Communications I can factually tell you, there is a very, very different dynamic on all levels that occurs online than would in real life. Love online is highly, highly suggested as not a good idea. We are all able to hide many things about ourselves here and often this need for secrecy and anonymity (that works so great online) carries over into reality and prevents a sincere relationship.
Often, people who look for love online are not able to reveal things they should about themselves or connect in an emotionally meaningful way. On the other hand, we can often say and do things online that we just can’t translate into a real life relationship. In 10 years of observation I have seen NO truly successful romantic connections that lasted any longer than picking up someone in a bar. Perhaps 1%. People are able to be amazingly intimate online and then are left in wounded shock when it isn’t working the same in real life. Just remember, it is quite easy to send a lovely little image and poem of love than it is to face someone who has (metaphorical) flatulence in real life. I think that love online tends to be quite similar to early teenage infatuation and puppy-love.
Those wonderful stories you hear are usually dating sites who want to encourage membership at a cool $49 a month..a MONTH. Taking a potential love to a bar is probably cheaper. There are far more horror stories in the romantic realm online than ones of success. In rare instances this can be great, but most of the time you are both thinking about the NEXT BEST THING that might be hanging on those million of faces you saw online. Yes, you can sift out the “chaff” better, but not always. Often, we magically become quite impressed with ourselves and overly optimistic about our own personal appearance, character and abilities. Online you can have a shot at (or at least a coffee) with the best looking man or woman in the “bar” when in real life you wouldn’t even attempt it. As the song by Brad Paisley says, “I am SO much cooler online. I lose 10 pounds just logging in. Women think I am mysterious and I tell them I am not looking for anything serious because even on a slow day I can have a three way chat.”
A friend of mine said it best that being online is like standing on any street corner in America. You just don’t know what you are going to get. I absolutely believe that there are sincere business and other relationships, but the romantic ones don’t seem to “gel” long term. The long term success or failure of online relationships and Communication would be an interesting study. Okay, now I must go drive my Maserati and practice my black belt in Karate.
This is the BEST video about the subject! It has received almost 5 Million views, so it must have connected with someone out there.
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